Loyalty can be a difficult trait to find in relationships we cultivate. Some of u expect loyalty to show up in ways that are completely irrational, unreasonable, and unhealthy. Chiiiiile you can't be everybody's ride or die! Everyone can not nor do they need your total devotion. Draw some boundaries for you and your family. You are worthy of safety and wellness. You are worthy of rest and establishing priorities that end with you excelling. Can I tell you a story? I used to d

TRIGGER WARNING: sex offenders, perpetrators, harmdoers among us. If your loved one, mentor, neighbor, favorite entertainer or reporter, respected community member or hero has committed sexual assault(s) - you can still love, care, and deeply respect them. It is important to accept that we all fall short. Sex offending behaviors does not make the offender/perpetrator/harmdoer a monster or devil - that person made one of the poorest and trauma inducing sexual decisions but t

This is a wo-manifesto for every woman & girl. For the women & girls that took inventory of where she stands and decided to intentionally care for herself anyway! For every woman & girl that don't know how to take inventory of herself! For every woman that has experienced abuse, misuse, and terror in her bedroom, on her block, as she walked to school, or through a crowded room and is now considering her life as a treasure. This is for every woman that found her tears in handk

The only things we fail at are the things we didn't try - a paraphrase of an old saying. I have tried and failed at many things including self-care. I have mistaken self-indulgence for self-care. I have rationalized eating certain foods in the name of taking care of my feelings. I have forgone exercise routines in the name of resting. Self-Care is not a tightly knit set of ideas. Self-Care is fluid and live. It ebbs and flows as we grow and expose ourselves to more ideas and

I decided NOT to create a vision board for 2017. Deliberately. I didn't miss the deadline or the ball dropping into the lap of 2017. I looked at my 2016 vision board and decided - just like that to not do life the same way anymore. I did not meet a lot of my goals for 2016. It wasn't my vision that failed it was my lack of transforming the vision into practical steps a.k.a. plans. I had lots of dreams but without a plan that is what they remained dreams. Nothing wrong with dr

From me to you. Survivor to survivor. The 2016 presidential election has triggered so many emotions, behaviors and for many have increased vigilance, fear, and terror. We do not always respond at the same time or in the same ways to trauma. But one thing is for sure there is always a response. Our minds, souls, and bodies respond to trauma differently. Some of our minds respond instantly but our bodies take years for us to acknowledge the trauma. Then there are some of us tha

We are tired of Blackness being considered a weapon of mass destruction. Our bodies are valuable. Our minds valuable. Our ideas and genius, valuable! We just want to hold space for all of us/you who are also tired. We are weary and burdened. You may be experiencing headaches, digestive issues, rage, confusion, wanting to justify Terence Crutcher's murder because you just can't seem to believe that this could happen again! Many of us are coping with emotional eating, increas